Xlibris author Monica continues to inspire us on this second installment of her blog about her extraordinary life and literary journey.
Xlibris witnesses Monica’s extraordinary life journey
My book, “My Extraordinary Life” describes our journey. My life was very “ordinary.” From a very young age (crawling), I was expected to do what “normal” kids did. I was given no special allowances or excuses. My Dad told everyone in the family, and eventually me, that I needed to try things first, and if I could not do them, I could ask for help. That turned out to be a brilliant philosophy because I learned to live my life without expecting any concessions. I believed I could do anything, and I found a way without even knowing I was looking for a way. I was in college before it occurred to me that my life might not be entirely “ordinary.”
I grew up, graduated from high school and college, learned to drive a car, moved from Nebraska to California, got an apartment, got a medical transcription job, learned to swim, lived alone for many years and then got married – certainly an ordinary life. My book details the joys and struggles of these events. It wasn’t always easy. I would come to realize as well that despite these ordinary accomplishments, the world would always see my disability first. Predictable, but completely inaccurate, assumptions about me and my life would persist. The realization that these assumptions would continue despite my “ordinary” life was a painful one.
In my book, I provide some thoughts and advice for those who are disabled, those who care for the disabled, families of the disabled, and those who are not disabled. I provide some valuable tips for children when they see a disabled person for the first time.
I will turn 60 soon, and as I look back, I am extremely grateful that I did not end up in a “home” because my life would have been very, very different. I am indebted to a family who unwittingly executed an exemplary approach to raising a disabled child. Because of my disability, and perhaps in spite of it, I have learned more than the ordinary patience, empathy, tolerance, and priorities. It is my hope that much can be realized about the disabled after reading “My Extraordinary Life.” Don’t label or assume because the label or assumption is likely very wrong. Given the opportunity to be “ordinary,” the disabled can, and often do, reach surprising heights, and they don’t see anything extraordinary about it. Some roads are winding and some are straight, but both roads can be traveled.
I would be happy to answer questions or provide more information if requested. Please look me up at my 3 Facebook pages (Monica Vickers, Monica Sucha Vickers, and My Extraordinary Life), my website (http://myextraordinaryamputeelife.com/), or email at email@example.com.
Readers may never look at a handicapped person the same way again. – Writer’s Digest
A touching look at effect of stereotypical attitudes on the disabled. – Kirkus Review
… should be required reading for lawmakers and those involved with regulations regarding disabilities. –Los Angeles Book Review
… the kind of book that should be in rehab and physical therapy waiting rooms. -San Francisco Book Review
… difficult, if not impossible, to put down. – Writer’s Digest
… epic story of an ordinary, yet truly extraordinary, life that will enhance every reader’s perception of a disability. – Royal Dragonfly
It’s not what people expect in a story, or in a book. – Paris Book Review
… compelling narrative will alter everyone’s perspective who reads it. – San Francisco Book Review
… in the league with “Still Me” By Christopher Reeve, or “Diving Bell and Butterfly” by JD Bauby. – Great Southeast Book Review
…would make for compelling film… would attract actors and filmmakers. “My Left Foot” comes to mind, the film that launched Daniel Day Lewis’s career. – Los Angeles Book Review
Read the first part of Monica’s blog here.
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